"I'M CONFUSED ABOUT MY SEXUALITY AFTER SLEEPING
WITH A NEIGHBOUR"
Hello, please can you give me some advice as I don’t
know where to turn. I came across your website while I
was looking for counselling websites online. I used to
be bisexual when I was a teenager but grew out of it
when I was about 17. I met my husband while I was at
university and we have two kids of 17 and 15. I’m going
to be 50 this year. The problem is that I got very drunk
at a party given by one of my neighbours who is
separated from her husband and when everyone had gone,
we ended up going to bed together. She was really
embarrassed the next morning and now she is avoiding me
but it has made me realise what I’ve been missing all
these years as sex with my husband is so boring by
comparison. I feel like my body has come alive again and
that I need to rethink my whole life and sexuality. But
my kids would be destroyed by it and my husband didn’t
ever know about my past. I don’t know what to do whether
to be true to myself or stick with my family. I can’t
leave and take the kids as my husband would never let it
happen and the kids would probably decide to stay with
their father if they knew I’d had sex with a woman and
they are really happy in their school. Please help me
sort this mess out because I have to do something soon.
Also, I’m worried the neighbour will tell someone else
and he might find out anyway.
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