"HOW DID I GET HERPES?"
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Considering how upsetting this has been to both of you,
it might be a good idea to see an English speaking
doctor together so that you can be reassured and if,
after that, there are still issues, then some couples
counselling might be helpful. Here is some information
about herpes:
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I'm sorry to
hear about your sexual health dilemma,& indeed it sounds
even more complicated by an apparent lack of trust
between you, in that you clearly think that your husband
has had sex with someone else & he says he thinks the
same about you? It must be creating a very difficult
atmosphere between you ,& until / unless one of you is
able to work out honestly what might have happened, it
feels as though you both have a distressing stand-off
situation, which is threatening your marriage.
One way or another I'm very sorry that you are the one
who is infected, & hope that you will get as much help &
information about what to do next from the many web
sites on www.google.co.uk or on
www.angloinfo.com
for more local info on France/health/English speaking
doctors etc.
However, if you also look on the following web site :-
International Herpes Alliance, Genital Herpes, Herpes,
Patient Support
The IHA is a global association of patient support
organizations and health professionals concerned about
genital herpes - information: regional support ...
www.herpesalliance.org
it does seem to confirm that this is a virus that is
sexually transmitted, but it also says that :-
"Genital herpes is passed from person to person through
direct skin-to-skin, genital-to-genital or
mouth-to-genital contact. Therefore, it is most commonly
transmitted during intimate sexual contact. Many people
first discover they have the infection at some time
during the course of a long-term, monogamous
relationship. Evidence of infection in a long-term
relationship does not necessarily indicate that there
have been other, recent sexual partners."
I don't know how long you've been together/married, but
do you think it is something that could have lain
dormant from before the time you met each other? I
realise that it doesn't help your current health
situation, but if you could try to discuss this
information above with your husband it might clear up
your anxiety about the potential unfaithfulness which is
hurting both of you at the moment?
If on the other hand you genuinely suspect that your
husband is lying, then maybe you will need some
counselling help with your relationship,& could try the
counsellors section
to see if there is a counsellor nearby who would be able
to help you with some further personal counselling. |
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Therapist C is
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