"WHY HAS MY WIFE LOST HER APPETITE FOR SEX WITH
Hello, I am a 50 yr old male, married to a 49 yr
old. We have two young girls and we have been living in
France for the past 5 years. For the past 7-10 years I
have been suffering from erectile dysfunction, and I
have been using Viagra for some time now.
I would say that I have a normal sex drive. We would
normally make love 2-3 times a month which is never
enough for me, so I resort to quite a lot of
masturbation, sometimes every day.
The current dilemma is that my wife is approaching the
menopause, and she says that she has lost her appetite
for sex, although she does masturbate me when I ask, she
will also perform oral sex and allow me to penetrate
her. But I am the one who has to ask, she does not
suggest or offer it. But I am not allowed to touch her
sexual parts at all, even her nipples are out of bounds,
so it is almost like visiting a prostitute, she is
providing a service, but it is all one way, which makes
me feel bad and not valued. There is also very little
warmth and affection from her, if we kiss outside the
bedroom, it must only be just lips or on the cheek.
We cannot seem to talk about the problem without
arguing, but I am at the end of my tether and I have no
one I can turn to. Some years ago we had counselling
from a Relate counsellor for marital problems, this did
seem to help.
Am I just being selfish? I did suggest that she talked
to her Doctor as it might be due to the hormonal
imbalance often linked with the menopause, but she
refused to entertain this as HRT has side effects.
Language is not a problem for her as she is fluent in
French. I do not know where to turn.
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