"Am I feeling like this
because I'm menopausal?"
I am desperately unhappy but
I can't work out and separate the reasons for this. I
have so many potential reasons for my unhappiness, that
I am unable to see through them all and think clearly
and come to any decisions. I'm menopausal and unable to
take HRT, so I am suffering from many of the emotional
problems associated with this time of life; I have left
the UK, my family and friends and have been unable
establish friendships here.
I find it difficult to learn
French and find the people generally unfriendly; my
husband works away from Monday to Friday so I am very
lonely during the week and at weekends he seems to spend
all his time doing what he wants and doesn't consider my
needs; He has said if I want to return to the UK, then
our marriage is over and I feel this is an ultimatum I
cannot live with; he says we had an agreement to come
abroad to work and live and if I want to change that
then I must carry on alone. How do I see my way through
all these issues?
I also feel guilty for
leaving my children behind, and I cannot afford to go
back to see them as often as I want because I cannot
work here and so have little money. I cannot talk to my
doctor because he makes no effort to understand me or
help me understand him. If I don't understand him he
just repeats himself more loudly in French. Most of the
time I feel utterly hopeless and desolate and feel that
there is no future.